One Snarky Chica with Issues

Sundays visit relationship/family issues.

 If you have been in a relationship for a while, there is always one clearly visible clue that you are happy. I like to call it “happy fat.” I know that you know what I am talking about. You’re in love, you spend every moment together. Moments become months, which become years and all of a sudden you’re wearing pants a few sizes larger than when the relationship started. Oops, how did that happen?

You get comfortable with each other and know that you’re not going anywhere. As a result you unknowingly let yourself go. It’s not intentional, it just kind of happens. Another sign might wearing clothes around the house that you wouldn’t wear in public.  It’s good that you  feel comfortable enough that you feel like you don’t have to work to impress you mate, but it is also not so good. It kind of sends the message that they aren’t important enough for the effort because you already have them in your net.

Comfortable in a relationship often translates to complaceny, which is not a good thing. The solution? Bring back a little excitement. Dress up for each other once in a while. It’s just sad when you look better for the people that you work with than for each other. If you both are carrying around a little extra happy fat, then join a gym together. And maybe even spend a little time apart. You don’t have to do everything together you know. Maybe running errands separately will make you long to be together.  Bye-bye  complacency.

I’ve been in a relationship for 10 years, so I know how easy it is to fall into a routine of complacency. It’s a bit harder to get out of it than it was to fall into it.